What to do when you don't know what to do
It's not a nice feeling to not know how to help your child. To chat with others that have little understanding of what you are going through so their suggestions are not very helpful and at times lead you to believe YOU are not doing "it" right.
So that leaves you feeling alone on your journey to help your child. And to top this off, you find that you may also want to give up. We all feel that way -- giving up -- but of course we don't because it's our child. The child, we KNOW, has so much to offer but we are just having a tough go at that moment in time.
At a time like this my mom would say to me, "This too shall pass." and I would end up sitting down and saying ...yes you are right. This is just now...things are gonna get better.
I am so thankful I have a belief system that goes beyond what I see in front of me.
I have words of hope that I can read. I can pray when I don't know what to do next. And the odd time, the tears will flow. That's okay too because it's my body's way of releasing the stresses I'm facing and at times it's a way for God to speak to me.
So this is what I do when I don't know what to do. I go to the ONE that knows all things. You see, my belief system is knowing that God is in control not me.
I pray. I ask for wisdom and guidance. I ask that the right people will come into our world to help us move forward.
Then when I am filled up with love, I can then turn and love my child. That's it.
If you want a starting place...look up the Serenity Prayer, as it's the prayer that allowed me to come to terms with what I could control or change and what I couldn't.
If Jesus or God is not in your belief system, start with the thoughts of a higher power. Then consider offering this belief system to your child because they too need to know that there is 'someone' that is there to support them when times are tough.